Essay written by Fred’s daughter, Diane

My dad was my first hero. He could do anything. He took me aside when I was very young and set me on a course of reaching for the best in life. That teaching never deserted me no matter what I faced. Dad stressed character building and modeled a method of fairness that I thought was extraordinary. It so impressed me that I carried it into all my personal and professional dealings as a foundational model.

I always knew by dad’s smile and looking into his eyes how much he loved us. Dad was so proud of all of us. Mom often said dad only sees the best of people even to his own disadvantage at times. That was so true and yet to us it spoke of hope and willingness to always look again and carry little regret that you did not give someone a chance.

Dad had a wonderful sense of humor and fostered that is us. Rarely could you talk with him and not see a twinkle in his eye. He loved to tell stories and jokes.
In these last few years dad aged with a lot of courage. He faced significant health challenges and limitations. And through it all, almost dying, and nursing home stays, he never failed to tell the world how wonderful mom is and he never failed to say thank you for the smallest courtesy or assistance. What a graceful way to live in a most challenging time. And he never failed to show his stubbornness to remind us he was still here.

Dad cared tremendously about the direction of the country and in the last few years wrote a book and numerous letters to the editor saying there is a better way. He was proud of his service in the Air Force and proud of his accomplishments in business. He always believed the success of any venture was based on a foundation of personal integrity and character.

Throughout his life, I watched dad go through many trials, disappointments and successes. There were not always good times by any means. Yet he never stopped reaching for God and God never stopped taking his hand. In his darkest moments, dad never stopped loving the best he could. God was a very real spiritual presence to him. And I am sure if dad were standing here now, he would say to his family “always remember my love. I know how much you loved me. And I know our love goes on. Care for each other. There is so much more to life than what too many of us settle for. Never lose your character, your faith, your truth, your ability to laugh, your ability to love. Life never stops being worth it. Keep your hand in God’s and you will never lose your way. I know he would tell us without a doubt, God is real and he is with Him now.

These last few months I saw peace, love, humor, and the angels presence in dad’s eyes. And though I could see that he was getting tired, I could also see that he knew where he was going. The best of who I am is because of what dad taught me. I could ask for no better father. God bless you dad. You will always be with us. We have heard your message.

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Funeral Home Obituary

Fred Raftis, Sr., 71, of Port Charlotte, passed away Sunday, July 22. 2012 in Port Charlotte.

He was born in Greece on April 10, 1941 to Dionisios and Mary Raftis. Fred, a former employee for the American Kennel Club, retired to Port Charlotte in 2000, and was a member of the Holy Trinity Greek Orthodox Church in Port Charlotte. He was an active volunteer in his church and local organizations, and enjoyed spending time with family, especially his grand and great grandchildren.

Fred is survived by his loving children, son Fred Raftis, Jr. and daughter Diane Lobosco; siblings, Nicholas Raftis, Georgia Kassimis, and Louie Raftis; four grandchildren and three great grandchildren; and his longtime beloved significant other, Geraldine Doyle.

A Memorial service will be held at 5:00 P.M. Friday, July 27, 2012 at Roberson Funeral Homes Port Charlotte Chapel. Fr. Ioannis Krokos, pastor of Holy Trinity Greek Orthodox Church will officiate.

Arrangements are by Roberson Funeral Homes, Port Charlotte Chapel.